Enjoying being lonely is a very dangerous thing. It might sound ridiculous but after a point of time you begin to like it. You like how there is less drama in life, there are lesser things to worry about and the best part of it is that you can do whatever you want to do without the fear of 'Log kya kahenge'
I mean, first of all, no one should care about that.. however, the social-guy inside all of us does care atleast a tiny bit about what people around us think when do a certain thing. Being lonely means there are lesser people around you. Lesser the people, lesser the worries and sometimes it is so peaceful it is almost liberating.
Being lonely becomes dangerous especially when you begin liking the feeling of not having the obligation to talk to people around you. There are times we all want to just be in our own shells and enjoy our own company accompanied by our favorite soundtrack, favorite book or just the mobile phone. When you start enjoying the company of these things more than the company of living breathing human beings, that's when the dilemma comes in.
Some people might refer to it as anti-social, some people might not care. Some people will think you're under depression or 'something' happened. This is the part where it gets the most annoying. I mean why do people have to presume that something happened every time I am not smiling or I don't seem cheerful enough? Can't I not want to smile? What if I don't feel enthusiastic today? I just want to save my energy and binge eat and eat and eat until my mouth is tired of chewing.
I think college has brought me to a stage where I prefer it when there are less people around me. That doesn't mean I don't talk to people. Ofcourse I do. But I choose who I want to talk to and sometimes I still have the liberty to decide who not to talk to. I choose not to have meaningful conversations with most people because I have realized that they do not care enough for me, and they are just looking for some new gossip for entertainment. I choose the important people in my life carefully. I choose them very skeptically. Sometimes and un-choose someone I had chosen before.
I like being in control. I do not feel sad. I think it's the control freak inside who atleast wants to control my own life. And I think I like the way it is.
Because, I no more have the energy to maintain superficial friendships. If we click, we click... If we don't there is no point putting in too much effort for something that doesn't have a clear future. We'd be better off in our own separate worlds.
Yes, that's why I enjoy being lonely. Because then, when I associate with people, I know those are the friends I am making for life and those are the ones who mean something to me.
I mean, first of all, no one should care about that.. however, the social-guy inside all of us does care atleast a tiny bit about what people around us think when do a certain thing. Being lonely means there are lesser people around you. Lesser the people, lesser the worries and sometimes it is so peaceful it is almost liberating.
Being lonely becomes dangerous especially when you begin liking the feeling of not having the obligation to talk to people around you. There are times we all want to just be in our own shells and enjoy our own company accompanied by our favorite soundtrack, favorite book or just the mobile phone. When you start enjoying the company of these things more than the company of living breathing human beings, that's when the dilemma comes in.
Some people might refer to it as anti-social, some people might not care. Some people will think you're under depression or 'something' happened. This is the part where it gets the most annoying. I mean why do people have to presume that something happened every time I am not smiling or I don't seem cheerful enough? Can't I not want to smile? What if I don't feel enthusiastic today? I just want to save my energy and binge eat and eat and eat until my mouth is tired of chewing.
I think college has brought me to a stage where I prefer it when there are less people around me. That doesn't mean I don't talk to people. Ofcourse I do. But I choose who I want to talk to and sometimes I still have the liberty to decide who not to talk to. I choose not to have meaningful conversations with most people because I have realized that they do not care enough for me, and they are just looking for some new gossip for entertainment. I choose the important people in my life carefully. I choose them very skeptically. Sometimes and un-choose someone I had chosen before.
I like being in control. I do not feel sad. I think it's the control freak inside who atleast wants to control my own life. And I think I like the way it is.
Because, I no more have the energy to maintain superficial friendships. If we click, we click... If we don't there is no point putting in too much effort for something that doesn't have a clear future. We'd be better off in our own separate worlds.
Yes, that's why I enjoy being lonely. Because then, when I associate with people, I know those are the friends I am making for life and those are the ones who mean something to me.
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